Living without the need to please, aligning with your true values and quite simply cutting out the crap. Living an authentic life has become more and more “popular” and I think it’s great that people are finally starting to lead a life that is true to them. I mean, isn’t that what life is for?!
But, how do you know when you’re not living an authentic life? Well, here are a few signs:
- You constantly feel like life is controlling YOU
- Waking up on Monday morning is a terrible feeling of dread
- You want things to change but you end up allowing life to takeover and it becomes a vicious cycle
- You’re always in need of a holiday, or you countdown to the weekend! ( a distraction from the discomfort)
- You’re comfortable but deep down you’re not content (You feel there is more to life than this )
Sound like you? Oh yes my dear, I know how that feels. The thing is, we are constantly told that we “Need to do this” or we “Should be doing that“, so when it comes down to it many of us (Myself in included) ignore or are influenced to go against our authenticity and we end up taking a backseat to fit in with society and everyone else!
Well, you know what? Life is definitely not for the faint hearted, because only a minority of people actually step out of this bubble and LIVE their authentic life.
I took a plunge in October 2017 to trust my values and follow what was true to me. Since then I have discovered 3 steps that help to successfully live an authentic life, no I’m not going to tell you to quit your job, but hopefully these steps will get you to remember exactly what this life is for and maybe one day, you can come to me and say ” I’m goddam living an authentic life!“..
3 STEPS TO LIVING AN AUTHENTIC LIFE
OWN WHO YOU ARE
The word authentic means “not copied or false” therefore it’s truly time to stop the comparison, self-loathing and OWN who you are. To live a life according to your authentic self, it’s vital that you get to grips with your true values. Take time to re-evaluate what feels right to you, notice the things you have been doing that are actually right for others and start making a change by taking small actions accordingly.
When you get clear on what you care about, authenticity has a chance to shine through.
It was scary when I first decided to express my passion for spirituality, I was worried that people would judge me or think I was “weird“, but the more I own it and the more I show up to it, the less other peoples opinions affect me.
“Don’t be afraid of being different. Be afraid of being the same as everyone else” – Unknown.
TRUST YOUR INNER GUIDE (INTUITION)
Did you know that your intuition is your own unique guidance system to navigate you through life? The moment we surrender to our “gut” feeling and trust our inner guide, the sooner we will be lead to live our authentic lives.
In a world where we are so focused on the logistics and facts, we forget to express and strengthen our creativity and spirituality.
Just as a car signals on the dashboard every time something is wrong, our intuition speaks louder when something is trying to get our attention.
If you feel uneasy about a collaboration/ deal with a company, listen.
Or if you wake up one morning with a strong feeling to walk to work instead of getting the bus, follow that guidance. You never know where it could lead you, the people you could meet, the man of your dreams or even missing that road accident that happened on your usual journey!
Pay attention to any physical sensations or hunches- this could also be a sign that you are not being genuine.
A tale tell sign that you are listening to your intuition is having increased experiences of synchronicity.
Trusting and following my intuition has been a major part of accepting and owning who I am also. Following this guidance will awaken you to a life that is right for you.
Related Post: 4 Ways to Develop Strong Intuition
BECOME AWARE OF YOUR INAUTHENTICITY
Self awareness is key to consciously living an authentic life. If you are aware of your actions and life choices then it becomes easier to change.
When you set the intention to be genuine, then it’s important for you to realise what that feels and looks like. E.g. When I first took the plunge to go full-time with my blog, I found myself avoiding the topic of conversation with my Dad and realised that I held fear in expressing my authentic self around him because I believed he wouldn’t understand it.
I therefore know, that letting go of fear was something I needed to work on in order to express my authentic self, even if it left me feeling vulnerable to begin with.
A lot of our values have been programmed into us by influential surroundings, but when we truly follow what is right for us, despite the thoughts and opinions of others, is when life truly begins.
You have to be willing to face your fears and in result you will become more resilient, honest and open.
So, are you intrigued to take the plunge? What does an authentic life mean to you? Share your thoughts in the comments below!