As much as we can try to stay positive, there will always be influences in life that challenge our optimism and being surrounded by negative people can definitely be one of them!
At some point we have all encountered situations where the people we surround ourselves with are toxic for our mental wellbeing and while sometimes it can be easy to walk away from, other times it can be extremely difficult and even impossible, especially in the presence of close friends or family members.
In the past (and often now), I can admit that I have let other peoples’ low vibes/pessimism have a heavy effect on my well being and although I am now aware that this is part of being an Empath, I knew that this was bringing me down and ultimately dimming my shine. Since I have been working on my personal growth and really trying to change my mentality, I have gathered a few ways that we can try to stay positive around negative people.
HOW TO STAY POSITIVE AROUND NEGATIVE PEOPLE
Don’t take it to heart & remember everyone has their own journey
Everyone goes through their own struggles and although it may not be right, the people closest to you are often the ones that lash out their frustrations, insecurities or fears towards you. It is vital that you do not take this to heart and remember that it is a reflection of themselves and actually has nothing to do with you. You have the power to choose how you react to their behaviour.
The next time you are unable to remove yourself from a situation/person that is dragging you down, visualise cutting a cord that connects your vibrational energy to theirs.
Or if you are in a situation where you are able to just walk way – WALK AWAY.
[perfectpullquote align=”full” cite=”” link=”” color=”” class=”” size=””]” No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt[/perfectpullquote]
Use it as a challenge for personal growth
Going through negative experiences with people can leave you feeling diminished, low and even hurt. A few years ago I had some issues with my Step Dad – Our personalities clashed which lead to numerous unfavourable events, I had allowed the negativity to swallow me soo much that I felt uncomfortable within my own home and became a fragile ball of despair.
Time passed and although the situation is still not perfect, I now look at the journey as something I needed to go through to be the person I am today. I hold no resentment towards him as a person and If I encounter similar situations now I choose to view our differences as an opportunity for me to learn and grow into a better person.
Try to react how you wouldn’t usually and challenge yourself to view the subject from a different point of view – You will notice that it is easier for you to remain optimistic and you become a better and stronger person for it.
Every person in your life is there for a reason – “they are either a blessing or a lesson”.
[perfectpullquote align=”full” cite=”” link=”” color=”” class=”” size=””]“Bad times can make you bitter or better” – John Wooden[/perfectpullquote]
Take some alone time
Take time for yourself hun! When we are constantly surrounded by negative energy, the affects start to have an impact on our physical and mental health, therefore it is vital to take time to recharge. Go for a walk, sit alone, read a book or even practice some mindfulness.
Having time to recoup your energy is a great way to reflect on your feelings and detach yourself from any negativity around you.
Express gratitude for the “positive” in your life
Although it may be difficult to pick out the positive whilst being in the middle of a negative situation, try to think about all the good things that are going on in your life. Life revolves around a lot more than our immediate surroundings so try to look at the bigger picture and be grateful.
You can even try to notice the good things about the negative people in your life! This will make things a lot easier for you and in result you will learn how to deal with the presence of negative people a lot better.
Remember, people may not always notice they are being negative, help them by trying to change the conversation to something more positive, express your gratitude for them in your life, helping them change their perspective on things is also helping you.
How do you deal with the presence of negativity? Do you find it difficult to cut off? Share your thoughts and comments below!